How do you tend to act in close relationships — do you worry about being left, keep people at arm’s length, both, or neither? This short, scenario-based quiz offers a window into your attachment patterns: the expectations about closeness you carry into relationships.
You’ll get 15 everyday scenarios (about a partner, close friend, or family member — think about your close relationships in general). Pick the reaction that feels most like you. There are no right or wrong answers, and your first instinct is usually the most honest one. It takes about four minutes.
Each answer adds points on two well-established dimensions: attachment anxiety (worry about rejection or abandonment) and attachment avoidance (discomfort with closeness and dependence). Your totals place you in one of four regions — secure, anxious–preoccupied, avoidant–dismissive, or fearful–avoidant — presented as a leaning, not a label. Attachment varies across relationships and can change over time, so treat this as a starting point for reflection, not a verdict.
Ready when you are
15 scenarios · ~4 minutes · answer with your first instinct, thinking about your close relationships in general.
Keep Exploring
- Attachment Styles — all four patterns compared side by side.
- Attachment Theory Explained — the full framework: Bowlby, Ainsworth, and adult attachment research.
- Can Attachment Style Change? — what the evidence says about malleability.
References
- Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment: An integrative overview. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment theory and close relationships (pp. 46–76). Guilford Press.
- Bartholomew, K., & Horowitz, L. M. (1991). Attachment among young adults: A test of a four-category model. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 61(2), 293–310. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.61.2.293
- Fraley, R. C., & Waller, N. G. (1998). Adult attachment patterns: A test of the typological model. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment theory and close relationships (pp. 77–114). Guilford Press.