Diagram of the anxious-avoidant pursuit-withdrawal cycle: one partner's closeness-seeking triggers the other's withdrawal, and the withdrawal triggers further pursuit

Attachment Pairings

Attachment pairings are the relationship dynamics that emerge when two people’s attachment patterns meet. Your own pattern is only half …

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Abstract diagram of disorganized attachment: a figure pulled simultaneously toward and away from a caregiver, illustrating contradictory impulses and the absence of a consistent strategy

Disorganized Attachment

Disorganized attachment is the pattern without a consistent strategy. Where secure, anxious, and avoidant patterns are organized ways of handling …

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Diagram contrasting secure attachment in action: a person calmly seeking support during stress and offering support to a partner, alongside the secure-base cycle of exploring, returning for comfort, and exploring again

Secure Attachment

Secure attachment is the pattern of relating to close others with a basic sense of trust: comfort with intimacy, ease …

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Two-by-two diagram of the four attachment styles on the dimensions of attachment anxiety and avoidance: secure (low anxiety, low avoidance), anxious-preoccupied (high anxiety, low avoidance), avoidant-dismissive (low anxiety, high avoidance), and disorganized-fearful (high anxiety, high avoidance)

Attachment Styles

Attachment styles are the characteristic patterns in how people relate to close others — how comfortable they are with intimacy, …

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